Studies tell us that only 3% of people in the UK set goals, and they are among the wealthiest people in the nation! Worldwide the percentage is probably less. Why so low? There are many reasons, but the one that concerns me the most is lack of knowledge. When we ask people why they don’t set goals they often say, “I don’t know how to.”
Isn’t that amazing? We send our children to school for 12 years before they leave with G.C.S.E. qualifications. Many of them go on to jobs, or universities. We teach them many weighty subjects including history, economics, literature, science, and so forth, but we miss one critically imperative skill: goal setting. We award them their degrees, pat them on their backs, and send them into the world full of knowledge, but ill-prepared, almost always, to design and pursue the lives they really want and deserve.
And all that’s required to change this lack of knowledge is a single school term, even half a school term, devoted to teaching goal setting. It doesn’t seem likely that we’re going to change the U.K. educational system any time soon, or the world’s educational system, but that’s not going to stop me from teaching you how to set goals.
The conversations I have are social proof that our business goal setting programs work. I know that goal setting will help you change your life for the better, it will help you get what you really want from life. And when you do, that’s reason for all of us to celebrate! Whether you’re already a goal setter, you used to set goals and quit, or you’ve never set goals, this lesson will help you build a better life that you deserve.
Step 1. Dream! Let your imagination run wild as you fill up a blank sheet of paper with everything you want to be, do or have. Many adults have lost their ability to dream and that’s unfortunate. By dreaming you instil hope for your future, and with hope there’s possibility. So your task is to dream. During this next week devote at least two private sessions to dreaming. I want you to create a Dream List filled with ideas. Your list should include at least 25 dreams about what you want to be, do or have.
Step 2. After you complete your list, wait 24 to 48 hours and read each item on your list and answer the question: Why? If you can’t express in one sentence why you want to be, do or have this dream, then it’s not a dream and it won’t become a goal. Cross it off your list.
Step 3: Ask the following five questions of every dream on the Dream List you created last week.
- Is it really MY goal?
- Is it morally right and fair to everyone concerned?
- Can I emotionally commit myself to finish this goal?
- Is it consistent with my other goals?
- Can I “visualise” myself reaching this goal?
You must answer “yes” to all five questions for each goal, or cross that goal off your list.
Here are some points to ponder: Is it really MY goal or is it a goal someone else wants me to pursue? Is it the right thing to do? Will reaching this goal distract from achieving other goals? Goals are often difficult to achieve. Are you sure you can make the commitment to pursue this goal and see it through? If you can’t “visualise” yourself reaching this goal, you probably won’t.
Reserve time during this week to think about the questions above and answer them. Once you’re finished, your Dream List will probably be much reduced from when you started out. That’s okay because you’re now closer to identifying the goals that you really will pursue and can achieve.
Step 4: Ask the following seven questions of every dream that remains on your Dream List (or goals list).
Will reaching this goal . . .
1. make me happier.
2. make me more prosperous?
3. make me healthier?
4. give me peace of mind?
5. win me more friends?
6. improve my relationships with others?
7. make me more secure?
If you can’t answer “Yes” to at least one of these questions for each goal, get rid of that goal from your list. Be sure to consider your family when you answer these questions. And do not confuse pleasure with happiness!
Here we go with Step 5: After asking the questions posted in Step 4 you will have reduced your goal list. Those you have eliminated were in fact not goals, just thoughts or desires at this point, so you’re better off without them.
Separate your remaining list of goals into one of three categories: Short-range (one month or less to achieve this goal), Intermediate (one month to one year to achieve this goal), or Long-range (one year or more to achieve this goal).
This step will help you quickly realise whether or not you have a balanced perception between what needs to be done now, versus your dreams for the future.
Remember: Some goals must be BIG to make you stretch and grow to your full potential. Some goals must be long-range to keep you on track and greatly reduce the possibility of short-range frustrations. Some business growth goals must be small and daily to keep you disciplined. Some goals must be ongoing. Some goals (i.e., weight loss, business success, education, etc.) may require scrutiny and consultation to determine where you are before you can set the goals. Most goals should be specific. A “nice home” is not as good as a “3,000 square-foot, modern- style home with five bedrooms, three bathrooms, and two living spaces.”
Here we go with the final step: After specifically identifying your goals, write them down in detail! It is essential that you have a written list of your specific goals and include a time frame for completion on each one. Then you will begin to do the daily, weekly action steps that will take you closer to achieving that goal. Be selective, do not try to complete too much at one time. In fact select one simpler goal to get you into the process and when you are successful feel how good it is. Then move onto the next goal.
Once you have identified your goals and plotted the activities that you intend to do to fulfil your goals, pat yourself on the back! You have just spent more time planning your future than most of your friends, relatives or associates will ever invest! Good for you.
The basic goal-reaching principle is to understand that you go as far as you can see, and when you get there you will always be able to see. ~Alan Balmer
